What I think about this book: Failosophy: A Handbook for When Things Go Wrong. This book describes the story of the author, she brings together all the lessons she has learned from her own life. Frankly speaking, her perspective is very different from mine. Hence, I can’t connect with her writing.
One of her sentences “What if, instead of planning for a future version of yourself that doesn’t exist, you pay attention to the present you: the one does?”
I can’t agree 100% with her. Why? To have a better life, we need a plan, we need a goal so that we can see where we are going to go. Where do we want to live and where are we? If we just accept the flow just like a dead fish, then we’ll be dead. If we just accept who we are right now, then we can’t move on to a better life. We should always try to be better than we were yesterday. And to get better, just take a risk. 1% of improvement in a day is better than nothing. Don’t just pay attention to the present you but pay attention to who you want to be?
If I do something when I feel like I want it, it’s hard to achieve my goals. I can’t move forward. I need guidance and the guidance is my own plan. Everything must have a plan. If I fail the plan, then it’s okay. There are so many other ways. Fail once, doesn’t mean my life is a failure. My failure doesn’t describe me as a loser. But to learn. Everyone has their own failure. “Failure is a fact. Failure is also not what other people tell you it is. Your experience of failure is personal. As much as possible, it should exist separately from the judgement of others” – Elizabeth Day. I agree with the author. The failure that I felt, not everyone will see as a failure. That’s the reason, why they don’t understand what we are going through, and we can’t expect people to understand us because human is different. We just need to understand ourselves and what we want. Be disciplined and consistent. Don’t let the feelings sway you away.